IS HE STINGY OR YOU JUST NOT WORTH IT

 

So I have been seeing posts and memes doing round of late about stingy men association. SMA as you would like to call it. Got me thinking how comes this has emerged all of a sudden, then it dawned me valentine is around the corner. So it must be a tactic or a way of telling your man you need to act the part. I can’t blame you though, if he is dating you he got to actually act the part. You see according to ladies there are two type of people when it comes to not giving them what they want. It’s either you are stingy or you just BROKE, yes I said it, broke. But I would like to add a twist to this. Maybe you are just not worth it.

See every man out here has that one person that means the world to them, that one lady that he would do anything for. One that in trouble just a snap and you would be there for them, you can swim through reeds shirtless, just for them. Scars will always heal. So one day back when I was head over hills for some pretty lady, I woke up in the morning to find a text from my sister who I dearly love (I hope she doesn’t read this, ha!) asking me for 500 bob, I immediately told her I don’t have which clearly I didn’t have but I promised her if I get I will send. Two hours later my apparent girl texted me asking for 1000 bob. Trust me I don’t know how I got the 1000 bob but I did and sent even without flinching. After I had done that it’s when I realized  that my sister had asked for half of what I just sent and I told her I didn’t have. I borrowed another 1000 instantly and sent my sister.

What am trying to communicate here is crap with your stingy men posts, even if you post a million times and you not worth it you still won’t be worth it. Yes maybe He will feel guilty and buy you those flowers and take you to that expensive restaurant that you crave for. But be assured that’s pity not worth it. But then again this is Nairobi, where women are asked do you love a rich man that doesn’t love you or a poor man that loves you and the answer will be unanimous ‘Better cry in a beach in Hawaii that pretend to eat love.' Couldn’t agree more. But then the question is, this life you always expect from men would you give yourself the kind of life. You say you can’t date a man without a car, while in the real sense you can’t even buy yourself  a bicycle.

But then again I don’t want to rule out we don’t have stingy men out here. Men who hide on that card of she knows am poor I can’t afford it. Crap. I heard once “it’s the small things that counts” So make that effort. Be the man, maybe you might just get lucky. We live in a world where nothing is delivered on a silver plate. Sauti Sol once said “mtoto atakuja na sahani yake” Noooooooo. You have to buy that plate and fill it. Then finally we have this kind of men who I would call stupid. You have a family, a beautiful lady with most adorable kids who you don’t leave money for them and you out here dishing money to slay queens who in turn calls their boyfriends  stingy because they can’t match up what you are doing for them.

Anyway at the end of the day. Live life like there is no tomorrow. Love and laugh. It’s never that serious by the way. When you die the world moves on.

A GLIMPSE OF 2020: BLESSING IN DISGUISE

 What seemed to be a promising year all came down to us struggling for survival. It was no longer about achieving goals and targets but rather seeing the year through. I once said everyday above the ground is a blessing. This year has made me actually believe my own words. I remember the joy and jubilation when the year began, the jokes on how Luhya will struggle pronouncing twenty twenty. It was all fun and jokes, many called it THEIR YEAR. Didn’t matter though because for most of y’all its always your year. With the so called resolutions which some call life targets. The thing about these resolutions is that most of them are unrealistic and most of us are uncommitted to them after we set them.

But don’t get me wrong, am not saying we shouldn’t set goals and targets in the name of NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS, what am trying to say is I understand it’s been a tough year and we should cut everyone some slack. January was delightful, February with its cliché’s love month and everything was going as planned till some cruck head Chinese guy deemed it well to screw all of us up. And gave all of us a new norm. we all started washing hands almost every time, greeting was no longer as we used to do, schools were closed, places of entertainment, people started working from home and least of them all churches and other places of worship were closed. Businesses were hit big time, tourism seemingly taking the biggest hit, bars and restaurants, private schools not escaping this one, and one who we all thought would benefit took a hit as well, hospitals. Apparently there were less patients from other diseases. So washing of hands and practicing hygiene came in handy. When we thought it couldn’t get any worse than that all sports were cancelled. You see most women are brought together by stuff they discuss but men, at least most of them if you remove sports and women from their discussions, they pretty have nothing more to talk about. Days seemed longer than usual, leave alone the nights. I was adjusting getting used to it, then I get sick and results come. Am positive of the corona virus. To be honest I don’t know what scared me the most, being sick or the stigma that came along with the news. People were scared even saying hi to me and some distanced themselves from me as expected, you cant blame them though. But salute to the few that were there during that period. Makes you value the true meaning of friendship.

Long story short 2020 came and went, it’s a new year, we don’t know if what we experienced was just in 2020 or season two is about to premiere, but what am sure of is people learnt a lesson or two. we deserve a drink for seeing the year through and most importantly is we really ought to thank GOD for the grace and mercies throughout the year. You can go ahead and set your targets for 2021, and make sure you commit to them. As pretty bad the year was there is always a silver lining. I read somewhere “As bad as 2020 was, it gave as some low-key blessings and for that we ought to be grateful” couldn’t agree more. Many lost jobs but some got jobs, many lost their lives but kids were also born.

Just 5 things to go with in 2021

1. ·         Everyday above the ground is a blessing
2. ·         The world is unpredictable, so be ready for anything
3. ·         There comes a point where everything is vanity, life is more precious than those things.
4. ·         Keep tabs on your people, least you are told they are no more.
5. ·         If you get an opportunity to save and invest, do that. You don’t know when the next pandemic will be and if you will still have a job or if you will survive it this time.

HAPPY NEW YEAR PEOPLE. Be smart. Don’t let the personal lessons you learnt in 2020 got to waste