WHAT IF

What if a question about what could happen or what could have happened in a particular situation if something was or had been different:

It is a question that is meant to jog your mind of the endless possibilities, imaginability, conceivability or plausibility of events that would occur if a prior event was to be done different. Most of the time the end results might scare you to even think about them but you know what, some things are inevitable.

So some time back I went through two ordeals that made me think so hard that I had to come up with this blog post to also make you jog your mind. The first incident involved my mum. She had been admitted to hospital (the first time ever) and we kept going to visit her every day, one day I had just left the hospital and was too tired I just wanted to get home and rest. Just when I opened my house my mum calls me and tells me to bring her, her sweater. In my mind I came up with so many excuses that I would give her so as not to go back all that way. But something struck my mind and I was stuck at ‘what if?’ What if I go tomorrow and am told she is gone? What if cold got the better of her? What if she knew she was going and had some info for me? I immediately went back, took her the sweater she requested. 

Secondly a friend of mine had a sick patient who had lost a lot of blood and wanted donors, I had promised to go but got so busy that told myself that I would go the following day very early. The following day AGAIN I told myself after church am heading straight to the hospital. So after church service I call to get direction of where am supposed to actually go, which hospital. And the news that I got rendered me speechless. She had actually gone. Now I sat in the car and asked myself lots of What if question. What if I had gone yesterday as promised? Would things have turned out different. 

Now my main AIM is to let you know if you have the opportunity to do something now, go ahead and do it. Don’t wait for tomorrow to tell us, you had the opportunity to change fate but you procrastinated it. Below is a few what if scenarios that can make you rethink if you were about to postpone something that you could do today.

So What If

        1.         Today was your last day…

        2.       Your mum asks you to visit but you decide to go the following day so that you can at least  you can buy her something when you visit, but that next day never comes.

        3.       You finally open up to your crush and she texts you back but you decide to read it the morning only to realise she was telling you to open the door she is outside.

        4.       The pastor calls for guys to get saved and you decide you will go the next time, only for you to find out that that was judgement day.

        5.       You keep waiting for the perfect time/moment to propose and she gets tired of waiting and another guy seizes the opportunity.

       6.       You keep telling yourself she can’t find better than you only to realize you were the frog she had to kiss before she finds prince charming.

       7.       You don’t answer a new number calling thinking its ‘TALA’ or ‘BRANCH’ calling to claim their depts. Only to realize it was the HR from the company you had applied to get a job but now the chance is gone since they called you three times and you never picked.

       8.       You thought grass was greener on the other side only to realize it was more greener on the side you were before but now it’s too late to turn back since you already moved to that other side. 

      9.       You aborted that child just because he refused to take up responsibility and you were not ready to raise a kid by yourself. Only to realize that was supposed to be the only kid you were to have.

     10.   You keep pushing him/her away and they keep staying but finally they go and they end up happier than they were with you.

Life is full of ups and downs, and surprises, when you think you have everything figured out that’s when life hits you the most. Left, right and center. Don’t be too casual and too comfortable. Anticipate, think, prepare. Only this way, you will be able to tackle anything that comes your way. Because you know what…… The future is not certain.

29 Lessons

So Long 2nd Floor

As I start my last year of second floor there is a lot to look back to, many lessons learnt, wiser people met, some cut off from the circle but at the end its all good. There is this verse that says all good things works to those who love Him. When you young to desperately want to grow up, to have a seat at the table. Thinking good things only happen to grown up peeps. Then boom you grow, and life hits you hard. Finances, family, relationships, employment and the list goes on. You start imagining at the fairy tale you had when you were young and it all seems like a joke. Who evens wants to grow up!!

Anyways at the end of the day growing up and change is inevitable. You have no choice, the good thing about it makes you be responsible and a MAN. You can make decisions, make conclusions, come up with solutions and if you good, you can mentor others. Am excited at this new chapter in my life. I don’t know what’s going to happen tomorrow or what new challenge is going to hit me. But all I know is am prepared and am ready. This is the point you tell life “Hit me with your best shot” and you look back at the worst memories and ask them “Is that the best you got?” So long second floor.

Here is my 29 lessons learnt over the 29 years lived.

1.       Always be thankful for the bad things in life. They open your eyes to see the good things you weren't paying attention to before.

2.       The best thing in life is finding someone who knows all your mistakes and weaknesses and still thinks you're completely amazing.

3.       Everyone in your life will hurt you sooner or later. But you will have to decide. What is more important? The pain or the person??

4.       Just because someone is strong enough to handle pain, doesn't mean they deserve it.

5.       Never be afraid of change. You may lose something good, but you may gain something even better.

6.       Be happy. Be who you wanna be. If others don't like it, then let them be. Happiness is a choice. Life isn't about pleasing everybody.

7.       Once you've accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you.

8.       Some changes are hard, but remember that there's always a reason why you wanted to change in the first place.

9.       A real man never stops trying to show a girl how much he cares, even if he already has her.

10.   Sometimes the wrong choices bring us to the right places.

11.   It’s really scary how today could be the last day you see or talk to someone you appreciate be nice and enjoy that time cause you truly never know what life got prepared for you next.

12.   Over-thinking ruins you, ruins the situation, twists things around, makes you worry and makes everything much worse than it actually is.

13.   Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right and forget about the ones who don't.

14.   pain doesn't go away, you just learn how to deal with it

15.   I'm not the person I used to be, I admit, a lot of shit got to me.

16.   Happiness isn't about getting what you want all the time. It's about loving what you have and being grateful for it.

17.   If you can DREAM it, you can DO it.

18.   Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.

19.   Success is how high you bounce when you hit bottom

20.  However many holy words you read, however many you speak, what good will they do you if you do not act on upon them?

21.  Being a family means you are a part of something very wonderful. It means you will love and be loved for the rest of your life

22.  You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them

23.  Family and friendships are two of the greatest facilitators of happiness

24.  Sometimes you have to stop worrying. Have faith that things will work out, maybe not how you planned, but just how they're supposed to.

25.  Desire! That's the one secret of every man's career. Not education. Not being born with hidden talents. Desire.

26.  Generous people find it so hard to ask for help even when they are going through hard times?

27.  You enroll in college, people say your course sucks. You get a job, they say it's a shitty work with low salary. You buy your car, they laugh it's not brand new or BMW. You get into relationship, they say it won't last long. As long you're proud of it, keep going and don't mind.

28.  Everyday above the ground is a blessing

29.  And the end of the day what you should worry is “does it make you happy?” so you do what makes you happy and let the others do what makes them happy.